I am sitting at one corner of the office while everybody is busy doing stuff. (But I was busy, I just found myself sitting when everything went well and the flow in the office is already smooth, so I guess I’m not guilty of writing my thoughts right now. :P)
It was my cousin’s day yesterday and before that day came, she just kept saying she don’t want to face it. She just turned 22 and she insisted that she want to stay 21 forever (I know right.)
Anyway, this idea of growing old and growing up came inside of me because I suddenly remember one of my favorite books I’ve read which is authored by Mitch Albom, Tuesdays with Morrie. There’s a chapter of that book where they have tackled about growing old and growing up.
It retained in my mind that getting old is never bad and having wrinkles or be matured physically is not ugly after all. It’s more of an evidence of what you have experienced and what you have became from all the things you have encountered while growing as an individual.
You are in your 20’s today and then in a blink of an eye you are already 30. Time flies so fast, I know. We didn’t notice it since, whether we admit it or not, we are too busy dealing with our environment, chasing all our goals and dreams to achieve. And when we suddenly feel heavy, that’s when we think of pausing for a moment; in that span of time we realized that we are too busy growing up that we no longer notice that we are already old.
When that happens, that’s the time we ran out of seconds to do the things we love.. We neglect to do the things that can make us happy and it’s already hard to stop or change routines. That’s is when “what ifs” becomes clingy in your daily.
My cousin have asked me, “are you not bothered that you are turning 25 this year?”. Another thing that really retained in my mind after reading Albom’s book is to not envy the people who are currently on their young age and you are already older than them. There’s nothing to be envy with as I myself have gone with each of the age of being a person. I was once a 1 year old baby, a 15 year old and a 20 year old and a 24 year old. Sooner or later you will also be in my age as you grow older.
Everybody’s even when it comes to age but not everyone is even on the experiences you’ll get. Growing old means the number of your age and growing up is your development as a person. Growing old can never be controlled (unless you have a time machine of going back to the old times when you were still a baby) but growing up is… Because growing up is a choice.
That is the reason why whenever it’s my birthday, I never say I’m growing old instead I am, again in the stage that I am growing up. No more going back to being 20 but accepting that you are in your current age and facing the truth that you are more brave and tough to face life’s challenges, and an experienced person that is ready to help young people by guiding and advising them to what is wrong and right.
So don’t be afraid of growing old as long as when you grow older each year, you are also growing up in experience.