Its every girl’s dream to be walking down the aisle with all the flowers, veil and a melody that will fill the whole vicinity with romanticism.
When me and my beau are engaged, we have already made sure that we know what we like in order to have a clear mind as to what to do and prepare thus, not to waste time.
The traditional visitation and meeting of the soon-to-be bride and groom’s families or also called as ‘pamamanhikan’ to respectfully and rightfully ask the hands of the bride and blessing from her family comes first. This meeting will also serve as the initial preparation of the big day which includes vital information like what is the type of wedding ceremony, when is the big day and where it is to be held.
We barely have about two months to do everything as we have decided, as couple, not to have a long period of preparation as it will trigger more expenses.
So what are the crutial details that need final information and confirmation?
- Type of wedding – Church or Civil or with preferred place to do the wedding ceremony
- When – make sure you are both comfortable with the date and that all guests are also available
- Time – consider the weather and the location of your guests, on how long is their travel period
- Where – consider your wedding location and time travel period from the church to the reception area
- Who – make a list of all your guests to ensure the number of seats and ensure the budget you need to prepare. Consider as early as now who is the presiding priest on your big day
- Requirements of all the things needed to submit (seminars to attend to, if ever you have decided to do the ceremony in church)
Once you are already decided with all these details, its time for the couple to chase the schedule to do everything on time.
Guest list done and entourage are already selected, simultaneously, the couple should confirm the attendance of these entourage characters to make sure everyone is set on the big day and expectations are already built. It is important that the commitment of all the participants are confirmed as countless times they will be bothered for all the information and sizes for the gowns and all other stuff needed from them.
Invitation should be done and approved by you and your beau, then make sure that it is in line with your selected color motif of your wedding.
Make sure you have given the invitation to guests 2-3 weeks before the big day. Follow them up with a text or email message for confirmation of attendance. Make sure to send a reminder message 2-3 days before the big day.
GOWNS & SUITS
Make sure to get all the sizes and have submitted all the designs of the gowns and suits you preferred.
FLORIST (church & reception set-up)
Ensure that your florist know what you want. But I suggest you tell your interests and imaginations so it would be easy for your florist to make your imaginations somehow into reality.
MAKE UP ARTIST
You have to make sure you have an appointment with your make-up artist to do samples of hair and make-up so it would already be easy for the artist to do what is expected from them. With Jong’s team, he focus with the bride, groom and maid of honor. He let his other 4 members to concentrate with other entourage characters.
Give a good time to heads up the presiding priest as well as the choir members that will light up the church as everyone walk down the aisle.
Don’t forget to make time to do food tasting and do the ocular inspection just to make sure that your guests can fit in the area, depending on the number of attending. Also, to make sure to address little details such as parking space, where to set-up the buffet area as well as what is your preferred table and chair set-up.
Take note of your master/s of ceremony and give your preferred program flow and names of who will lead the prayer, give messages and the like. Customize each segment with your favorite song.
It is not easy breezy to plan your own wedding especially there are a lot of things to be done and consider. But, let me assure you that even it is stressful and tiring, it is fun and exciting! You got to test you and your partner’s patience and it makes your relationship heighten. This is the stage where open communication is enhanced, trust is not a question and support for each other is visible.
Hence, regardless of all the preparation, be it small or big wedding that you imagine, it is still and always will be about the marriage after the wedding day. So, if you are giving your 100% in your wedding preparation, then you have to give as well 100% effort in preparing for your marriage life after.
For now, enjoy the moment and make sure to embrace the exchange of vows and finally say, ‘I do’.